The Heart of the Matter
A few years ago I celebrated my first galentines day. I was recently single along with a friend, and we decided to celebrate each other. We didn't need a significant other to make us happy! We went out for dinner, and although the waiter thought we were a couple (admittedly we played it up a bit!), we celebrated our years of friendship and had a great evening together. With Valentine's Day happing in just a few short days, I think it is important to remember the people who support us not only our significant others. While I love TL and he does support me, many other people in my life also support me, care for me and show me love, and I think that this holiday is a perfect time for us to recognize our tribes.
As children, we are taught to give everyone in our class a Valentine's Day card. As we grow up Valentine's Day moves from being a fun chocolate-filled holiday to a more romantic one with sexy underwear and high expectations. We begin paring off and forget those people who make us who we are. We forget to recognize the love we have for the friend who takes you out dancing after a hard week or brings you hot and sour soup when you have the flu. We grow up to believe that love = romance instead of friendship when it shouldn't be the case.
On this Valentine's Day, I'd like to propose a challenge for everyone. Tell people that they matter, tell them you love them (I almost always sign off with an I Love You to close friends) and make sure people know. If I've learned anything, it's that you might believe someone knows how much you care for them but they never really do. Sometimes just picking up that phone and telling someone they matter and how much you care about them can make a world of difference.